* I actually wrote this a little over a year ago but never published it. We are in Texas now but the concept still applies today.
New International Version (NIV)
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything
Submission. That 10 letter word that can change the atmosphere of a room as soon as it is spoken. I have to admit after 11 years of marriage, I would pick and choose when I would follow the biblical role of submission to my husband. Mainly if it suit my needs then I would submit. If not I would "be simply expressing my opinion" or at least that was how I justify it in my mind. The truth was when it came to the big stuff my emotions an not my love for my husband or God took control.
Last week I had an "aha" moment where I finally understood fully the role of a submission in a marriage.
Let me start from the beginning. My husband is active duty Military. We were on recruiting duty in our home state of Ohio from 2008 -2011 where we purchased a home. After the tour was over we were sent to S. Georgia and the house in Ohio became rental property. The plan in my husbands eyes was to return to that home when he retires in 2018. I have no desire to return to Ohio and I have made that clear for 2 years now. Although I grew up in Ohio I am not a fan of snow and we get a ton of it up there. Plus I love sunshine and hot days, two things that only occur for a short time in Ohio. For 2 years it has been a point of contention between us. 2 years seriously all that time I wasted getting upset when Ohio was mentioned. Griping to everyone how I don't want to go back . Looking for jobs in the 49 other states of America . I was bound and determined to make my husband see it my way and agree.
That was until last week . I have been reading thru unveiled wiifes devoutional book and one morning felt very convictedon the issue of Ohio. I knew in my heart my behavior was not pleasing to God. I was not being supportive of my husband and his desire to move back to Ohio. Submission is about putting the other person first. Just as Jesus put the church first by paying the ultimate sacrifice we as wives are called to submit to our husbands. Now let me stop and say if your in any way in a harmful situation get help. God does not call us to submit to our husbands in a way that is harmful to ourselves.
All day I prayed as I went about my daily routines. Reminding God how much I don't like Ohio [and seriously it is the weather I do like the state and have many friends and famly there} . By the time my husband came home and he was griiling dinner for that night I new my heart was ready to talk. Basically I told my husband I was tired of fighting over moving back to Ohio and that if we go then that is fine with me.I will no longer complain about going and will have a positive outlook if tat is where we end uo after he retires, Needless to say he was shocked and thrilled, but for me there was something more ...peace, I felt this overwhelming peace after I had truly submitted to my husband just as God calls us to . It was like this heavy burdon was lifted of my shoulders. I felt peace about moving for the first time in 2 years.
A week has passed since that conversation. Ohio has come up a few times and I just keep being an ecoragement and focusing on the positives. Funny thing happened after dinner tonight, my husband floated the idea of taking a job in Nevada [warmth and sunshine !!!!!]
So submission is not meant to bring you down or make you feel oppressed, In fact it is quiet the opposite. It brings peace in your heart and peace in your family.
What about you? how has submission affected you life?